That it really is a conversation better to have in-person. However, sometimes I just hope that they’ve already read about it somehow.A few months ago, I went on a date with someone I met through a colleague. When we eventually broke up, and it had nothing to do with my HIV, but rather that he was older (duh) and ready to settle down and I wasn’t in the same headspace.I have a great infectious diseases doctor who is always willing to have conversations with my partners and to make sure we are taking the right precautions. The truth is, I’m basically just like any other 20-something in Toronto. The only difference is that while some people might have an ex that they’re worried to bring up, or some family drama they are afraid to delve into during those first few dates, I have those things HIV.
I was not open with any of my peers, even my high school best friend who caught me crying a few times.
When my parents died, I didn’t tell people why either. I’ve also been told that I’m “really mature” and “act older than I am,” which I choose to view as compliments.
If I’m being honest, the fact that he didn’t know much about HIV probably turned me off a bit too.
And he wasn’t the only date to turn a romantic meal into a classroom session.
Even if my status wasn’t so public, whenever I go out with someone, I make sure that my date knows that I am HIV-positive early on.